So many of you have heard it, thought of it and might have even said it.
Truth be told I am sick and tired of it!
The, “you don’t have good hair ” comments have really made their way to the top of my nerves.
But wait, before I even get into it any further, let me first take this opportunity to confess, cause I certainly have been guilty of doing not one, not two but all three; I have said it, thought of it and have most definitely heard it.
Ever since, I have come to the realization that the use of the good hair is a manifestation of self hate. I can’t help but to cringe every time I hear someone saying it about themselves or to someone else. Now, I know you might be thinking that I am going overboard with this, perhaps even thinking too deeply into things, but don’t worry, I will explain why.
So like I mentioned, I will explain what “Good hair” is in this context and how it has been a great contribution to the manifestation of self hate.
What is “Good Hair” ?
The term good hair is predominantly used within the black (African) community.
It is a favorable or desirable ascription given to hair textures that closely resembles that of a European. So the closer your hair is to having Caucasian like texture, the more likely you will hear that you have the good hair.
Please, understand that “Good hair” unlike “good health” by no means takes into consideration ones health . As much as that would make great logical sense, it doesn’t!
My Bad Hair Epiphany
For me, like the most of us, my interaction with “good hair” started very young. For one, growing up as little girl I always had my hair relaxed. I can vaguely remember even being natural. But what I do remember, is, as a teenager, having to fight with my new growths when it came around to that six or eight weeks mark. It was not a pretty sight!
It was so much of a struggle, that I would NOT want to even consider having to manage or comb the full length of my hair in that state. Some of you know exactly what I’m talking about. So I knew from then that this “good hair” cup has certainly passed from me.
I could not help but to have this outlook and neither could you, when we have been conditioned to dislike what we look like. I was made to believe that the only way to make myself more desirable was to change. So yeah, the relaxer was the great ideal in this situation.
Good Hair’s Contribution to Self Hate
Good hair reinforces systems of oppression that influences self hate.
As a disclaimer, I am one the persons who believes that slavery has contributed to all if not most of black people’s problems and this is no different.
Why? Black (African) people have been hearing from the Europeans, since the enslavement period that what they look like is ugly, shameful and offensive. This has penetrated so deep, that they have accepted and believed it, whether consciously or subconsciously.
They have even created different ways to change all of which makes them unique as an attempt to be acceptable and seen as beautiful. One of which is the pressing comb which was a huge game changer. It change lives of million of women, invented by our very own Annie Malone. But it’s use is slowly decreasing, as there has been an increasing amount of women returning natural.
Good Hair’s existence in the Natural Hair Community
Believe it or not, though is so, the good hair phenomena even exists among naturals.
There is a beauty hierarchy that ranks hair textures within the Natural hair community. The naturals with a more kinky and tightly coiled hair texture are placed at the bottom while the looser curls and waves are at the top. In other words if you’re mixed you have “good hair” and is more accepted a beautiful is society. If you are not, and have tightly coiled hair worn and styled, you may be deemed unkempt and lazy.
The truth is some hair companies are still even marketing natural hair products only using women with the good hair; even with the rapid increase of returning naturals with all different textures. It can be taken for granted that they are of the opinion that they more beautiful or will be perceived as more beautiful by the public. So selecting them in marketing campaigns might be more profitable to them.
Who knows? Both could very well be true.
These are my few observations and experiences that I strongly believe must change. You need to feel as though you are beautiful regardless of your texture, hue, shade and shape. You’re texture should NOT determine where you rank on the beauty meter.
This good hair phenomena has done far too much damage in dividing us and now needs to DIE!!
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